Drama Drama

So, if you read my blogs you know that my family was stalked heavily between August of '08 and November of '10 by someone giving the appearance of working for the city.  

We got some weird phone calls.

We had one death threat.

I had one person put my name on forums and who let me know in no uncertain terms that s(he) knew where I lived, what I do, and who I hang out with.

The cops came to our house at 2:00 am due to false 911 calls.  I learned that the person I suspect of doing the stalking was dating a cop at the time.  I still have respect for our officers.

Between that period of time, it was not an uncommon sight to see city cars hanging outside my home.  I have the photos somewhere in a zip drive at work.

I was told to get a business license for my hobbies and had city code misquoted to me by the head of the tax department.  It's obvious who has been bugging me.  I suspect that it is my ex's former supervisor.

Now, there was another stalker in the city where I work some 20 miles away.  The officers know who he is and it is highly doubtful that his stuff is related to anything going on at the city.  He scared the crap out of me in January.  Then he hassled an elderly woman who rents in my office building.  I called the police and let them know.  I have never heard a peep out that guy again.

Then, I have the run of the mill stalker guys who send me creepy emails and have hunted down my home address and phone number.  They send me things I don't want.  Thankfully these guys are mostly harmless. 

This isn't uncommon when one works with the public.

The city stalker though seems more frightening than the others.  That person knows where I live.  Leaves bizarre comments about me in public venues (mostly forums), sets up filthy accounts under my name, and seems to know rather odd things about me (some true and some not).  I'm pretty sure I know who she is.

Now, I'm becoming a little annoyed by the information I'm getting third hand from people employed by the city to defend the person I think was stalking us.  The new information does border on creepy. 

Two days ago, the message went like this...

You must waive your right to sue us for any possible retaliation or defamation and maintain our client's confidentiality in blogs and on forums or she [they named the person I suspect] will retaliate and defame people you know and make it hard for members of your family to hold a job.

So...are you telling me that the city is admitting to the retaliation and defamation? 

Why would we waive our rights to sue with what you just said?

I already know which city employee did that because I've been getting calls from concerned former employees who think I'm being beat half to death.   I know she made it hard for my ex to get a job because once I explained to people that there is no truth to what they heard from the city employee, he got an interview offer from an employer who rejected him after getting a reference from his former supervisor.  For the first time in over 2.5 years, my ex will have an interview. If he gets the job, I'll be relieved.

Although I just heard about some of it for the first time over the weekend, it appears that the defamation has been going on for a long, long time.

Truth be told, I'm worried about that city employee - if she is talking about such violent things and seeing me as a victim, she may be projecting her experiences towards me.  I wonder if these horrid things aren't happening to her.  Is there any way one can put a stack of EAP phamplets on her desk?

I do pray for her but my prayers haven't been answered.  The day God answers them, she'll leave the city for a better job somewhere else and we'll get someone who is better at her job.

Today, the message relayed to me was worse.  I'll put it online in this blog so my family can see it - just in case something happens to me. 

I was told that if I have been harassed or stalked by a city employee it is not because of the employee who is defaming and retaliating against my ex and I for speaking out.  It is because of my politics. 

Are you telling me that the city is behind the harassment and stalking that began 2.5 years before I volunteered in politics?   


Or, are they telling me that they are gearing up to harass and stalk us again?

And I thought I was doing this to help members and supporters of current lawmakers....geeesh!  Do they know you're threatening me?  If so, I can always do a 180.  I'm in the middle and can go either way. 

They should be mindful of what they say.  I understand veiled threats all too well.  

I was also warned to 'let sleeping dogs lie.'  I don't know what to say about that one.  Am I supposed to stop talking to state lawmakers about forcing governments to comply with laws that will save my bully's job? 

She should not want me to let sleeping dogs lie. 

I am trying to do the right thing.  The rule changes I want to put into place will protect her. 

• Rumor has it that I'm right about her victimhood - I'd like a policy to keep that confidential so people like me never find out about things like that and it doesn't harm her reputation or ability to flee such a situation.  It is the right thing to do.
• I also want them to stop breaking Federal Wage law.  I understood she paid a $400 fine for laptop repair.  That is an illegal fine as per federal wage law.  Did she not know that?  
• I want to remove the quota system that was put into place in '08.  I saw her numbers.  She bullied the most respected employees from her department and replaced them with newbies.  For three years she's been behind the 8-ball.  My first thought upon reviewing the budget was that she may lose her job based on the failure to meet an unethical quota system.  Now, if we get rid of the quota system, it may buy her (and her boss) some time and keep small businesses from being harassed. 
• Then there is that little business of her coworkers telling everyone about an incident that impacted her health (I think it was in the fall of '10).  Someone called my house and told us.  Seriously, I've been whining about the ADA and the need for confidentiality.  Does she not know following ADA guidelines will protect her, too?

I have no intention of letting sleeping dogs lie.  The problem with bullies is that the unethical crap they do eventually comes back to haunt them.   If she continues to harass me, she's only kicking herself in the butt.

She needs to stop harassing me and let me get back to work.  She needs to leave my ex alone so he can get a job and let me get this done without interference.  The intention is not to annoy her but to prevent what happened to our family from happening to anyone else - and this includes my bully.

I play fair.

Bad city policies hurt a lot of people.  They make activists like me.  Don't make this activist stronger by threatening her. 

Chill Out!

If she threatens us again the city will be facing a lawsuit.  I'll ask for money damages and an injunction.  I already have a lawyer.  It's not worth it.

Stop lying and posturing.  Start cooperating.  Heck, if you want to team up, let me do the research and take credit for getting it done, I don't care.  I just want the policy shifted to protect everyone else - I don't care who gets the credit.  I just want it put into place now because, quite frankly, I'm embarrassed by the antics of a few in my local government. 

Love ya,

 S.