Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Unrequited Love - Marriage is Irrational

My lesson of the day is that marriage is irrational. It is, in my experience, it is best described as an exercise in unrequited love.

It is irrational to think that a married person can expect honest communication. It is irrational to expect fidelity. It is irrational to allow someone access to your assets and not expect them to be stolen. It is irrational to want to live in a relationship with compassion and understanding. It is irrational to expect someone to try to listen to your point of view or problem solve. It is irrational to want to have the kindness and love shared returned.

I did my best.
If all of our efforts to love our returned to us then why am I so alone?
I must be incapable of love.

People are people. They are going to do what they are going to do. We have no business expecting anything from anyone else. If I want to be kind, that is my business. I have no right to expect that it will ever be returned.



I guess it is true that women are irrational.
At least, they are irrational so long as they believe in marriage.
And, do you know what is equally irrational?
The men who think that women have to stay in bad relationships despite the pain.

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