Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.
There was once a young girl who realized that love made some men irrational and crazy. Just about every one she knew eventually did something nutty in the name of love. She usually left them when she realized that she loved them too much to let them risk their happiness and health for a simple love affair. - Her first love used to smack his head into walls when she felt sad, She realized that sadness was a part of life and that she would feel it from time to time. She also decided that she loved his beautiful mind and didn't want to risk damaging his brain every time she felt sad, so she left.
- Her first husband used to hit her so that she could see how passionate his feelings were for her. After one subdural hematoma, and her love facing the loss of his freedom, she left.
- Her mate of over fifteen years confirmed various acts of sabotage against her independence and threatened future ones with the clearly stated goal of keeping her with him, she had no choice but to leave because his sparkling and trusting personality had changed. She prayed that she hadn't cheated the world out of his true beauty due to the changes that he took on during the relationship.
Sometimes true love means letting go for the sake of love. It means loving at a distance and staying far away from the men that act violent and irrational while in relationships.
She wondered if it was simply the chemical reaction that occurred when she and her love were together. perhaps if he were with someone else, a different and more positive reaction could occur. Maybe it is true that some couples bring out the best in each other while other couples bring out the worst in each other.
To her, love meant wishing them the best in the world. For some reason, these men couldn't feel happiness with her. From that point forward, every thought of them became a prayer for their happiness - the happiness that she knew she could never truly share with them no matter how much she loved them.
There are various theories explaining the biochemical processes that mimic insanity during states of love but, somehow, some of the things that occur in love seems above and beyond any biochemical explanation.
Undoubtedly, there are social and cultural factors at play. Some men may think they have power when they behave in violent ways but, alas, those violent acts steal their power. The moment that they strive to gain control in the relationship, they cease to act out of love. This begins the process of chipping away at the love that they so desperately need. In the end both people in the relationship lose. It's so sad.
Perhaps the great lesson is to learn to love at a distance. True love may actually be espoused in the act of leaving a difficult affair because one loves another so much as to not destroy the beauty within his heart, mind, and soul.
Surely, people who become close touch each other and, in some way, change their lives. If the change cannot be for the better, then there really is no point.
Sometimes, the hour of separation is painful because one leaves the other out of profound love. In spite of the pain of feeling one's own heart splinter, sometimes a women knows that staying in a bad love affair will negatively alter the one she loves while killing her own heart, soul, and motivation.
For what good is a life not lived in love? We must live in love. We must act in love, not only for the love of those around us but with love for our own souls.
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