Tame That Bulging Thing!

Pride and ego are the biggest impediments to learning and change in life.

Our ego and our pride are the biggest stifling factors that we have to learn to overcome.

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Okay, I have to address a little criticism that I've received lately. Yes, some say that I share too much. Yes, I probably do.

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I do it with purpose.

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If someone had told me not to do some of the stupid stuff I used to do, I would have spared myself some painful lessons and not hurt the ones I love in the process.

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I share stories to prevent others from pain.

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Often, on message boards, I'll come across messages from men questioning the normal sexual activity of women. I will not hesitate to answer these questions if I think it will do one of two things. First, I will answer if I believe that the words can demonstrate that to the inquirer that his needs are normal and that he is not deviant. Second, I answer to show women that there is no shame in certain behaviors and get the men to start illustrating how much certain activities mean to them. Certainly, many of these questions may appear perverted to some people, but to tell the truth, most men who have the courage to ask such questions are really in pain. They deserve to be released from that and not question their personal needs so much.

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I share stories to illustrate the human condition.

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Sometimes I want people to stop and think. I want people to question. I want people to question their own belief systems. Questioning often invokes personal growth and I'm all for that. The problem is, sometimes, that I have to say the darnedest things to get the attention of the people who need to question.

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I share stories to make people go hmmmm....

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I tell the truth in everything I've written. I'm pushing forty, now. I've done quite a bit in the past twenty some years. I've changed my name, career, interests, viewpoints, appearance, locations, and faith. That does not make me flaky. If you knew me, it would make sense.

The point is that everyone makes sense once you get to know them! It's true. In any event, no matter what you believe about me, I've done my best to grow.

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People who criticize others are invested in the things that they say.

That is because of their ego.

Questioning their viewpoints hurts their pride.

They cannot question their belief systems or grow.

That's sad because questioning will either strengthen their convictions

or lead them to new conclusions.

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ON ANOTHER UNRELATED NOTE: I've noticed my overzealous spam filter has been deleting messages, so I have changed the email address on Blogger to one where I get all my messages and fill of spam, spam, spam, spam.

I'm sure to get your shining messages, now.